Wife Of Caleb Shomo Speaks Out After Singer Reveals He Is “A Proudly Gay Man”

The wife of Beartooth frontman Caleb Shomo has shared an emotional statement publicly after the singer recently came out as a “proudly gay man”.

Shomo made the announcement on Saturday, May 23, posting on social media to address ongoing “speculation” about his personal life. In the statement, he told fans: “This is something I’ve been unpacking and reckoning with in my life for quite some time now.”

Now, Fleur Shomo, who had been married to the singer for nearly 14 years, has shared her own message on Instagram expressing both heartbreak and support for Caleb. Shortly after posting the statement, she made her account private.

“Not really sure how to start this ’cause does anything even need to be said? But I guess I’ll just dive in,” she wrote alongside a video of the couple dancing together at a party.

“The past few months have been a very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate. For both of us. But I will always want to love, protect and support Caleb. I have cared more about his well being over the years than anything else in the world.

“To see the confusion and pain he went through and the highs and lows and wanting to help but not knowing how,” she continued. “You never want anything more for your person than for them to just be ok. You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world and the anger you also feel.”

Fleur later opened up further about the emotional complexity of supporting someone while also grieving the end of their relationship.

“I am the only person that is having to deal with the duality of this situation. To support him whilst losing everything has been incredibly hard to figure out.

“I have always wanted nothing more than for Caleb to be happy. Trying to help him go through this without having any idea what to do has been a learning curve we never expected to experience together,” she added. “The isolation of not being able to talk to people about this has been profound, as it has not been my story to share.

“My mental health has suffered and I have had moments where I have not felt or acted like myself. For those that have known and been there, thank you. I’ll never be able to repay your kindness.”

She also reflected on their years together, describing the marriage as full of love, adventure and unforgettable memories.

“Our nearly 14 years of marriage was wonderful and full of so much fun, adventure and love. Nobody will know anything about our marriage like we do. And no one can ever truly know what depths of love exist between two people unless they are those people. I already miss it and my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one. And now it is done.”

“I hope anyone in the world going through this finds hope & courage & I hope that fans can continue to support Caleb,” she concluded.

Shomo’s announcement arrived just months after Beartooth released the single ‘Free’ in March, marking the band’s first new music since 2023 and offering the first preview of their upcoming album. At the time, the frontman described the song as “the start of the next chapter of my music and my life.”

After the video for ‘Free’ was released, fans noticed Shomo had deleted his personal Instagram account. Many speculated the decision followed a wave of homophobic comments aimed at the video, which featured him wearing a jeweled choker, crop top and eye makeup.

Following the release, Attila frontman Chris Fronzak posted controversial remarks online, joking that Shomo had “dropped the ‘S’ from his name”. He also claimed the music industry was “brainwashed beyond belief” and alleged that artists are told they “wouldn’t get big because they don’t have a trans person or female in the band.”

Fronzak later apologized for the comments, saying they were intended “as a joke”. “I don’t know what he’s going through at the moment, but I wish him the best. The world has too much hate rn and I don’t want to add any fuel to that fire… You never know what someone is going through. Therefore, I am sorry, and I will work towards thinking about things deeper before I just word-vomit shit into this bird app. Love yall,” he wrote, according to The Mosh.

Beartooth’s latest album remains 2023’s ‘The Surface’. Around the time of its release, Shomo spoke with NME about how deeply personal the project was for him.

“It’s always a cathartic experience to write Beartooth records, with whatever kind of viewpoint they’re from,” he explained. “Some, obviously, being more painful than others. Making this record, truly, it’s just something I never thought was going to happen in my life, candidly. I’ve talked about it in other albums, I’ve talked about it pretty openly in interviews, the dark side of what I deal with sometimes, I felt like has always been at the forefront and been the most powerful energy in my life.

“Most of the time, I’d finish a song and be listening to it and I was like, ‘I cannot believe I wrote this.’ Beartooth is the most intimate experience that I have with music. Beartooth and me are one thing. It’s just me talking about exactly what I’m going through, with no filters, at that moment.”

Elsewhere, last year Shomo also collaborated with Rage Against The Machine guitarist Tom Morello on the politically driven Final Fantasy 14 anthem ‘Everything Burns’.